Get your girlfriend into video games

Girlfriend Playing Video GameMany guys will be forced, at some point, to part with their beloved game console by supreme order of their bitchin’ counter-part. This can be avoided by using some proven tactics to gradually introduce video gaming into your relationship. You may not get her into Resident Evil, but she may end up playing some games you both can enjoy.

6 Steps

  1. Find out if your girlfriend has ever played video games before. She may not be a full-blown gamer, but maybe she played Mario games when she was younger. Or maybe she likes playing an Internet game from time to time. If you know her gaming history, you’ll have a better chance of finding a game she’ll enjoy now.
  2. Remind your girlfriend that if you both play video games, you’ll be able to spend even more quality time together.
  3. Pick out a game she might like. If you’re not 100% sure she’ll enjoy it, you can rent it.
    • Try to choose a game or game system that isn’t too confusing, and doesn’t require short reaction time. Many non-gamers are intimidated by button combinations. If you’ve ever gotten frustrated to the point of throwing the controller in a game, don’t start with that one.
    • If you can, get a game that is multi-player or, optimally, co-op.
    • Consider your girlfriend’s personality when picking out a game. Some girls may prefer the brightly colored, all-ages games like Katamari Damacy, Bust A Move, Lego Star Wars, Sims, or just about any Mario game. But remember that your girlfriend is an individual who could just as well go for Halo, Resident Evil, or Grand Theft Auto. In general, girls go more for games that involve good characterization and dramatic plotlines; even a modicum of these factors can make a game a lot more appealing for a girl. For instance, many girls won’t be interested in Soul Calibur 2 … but if you let a girl make a custom character in Soul Calibur 3 (maybe encouraging her to make up a story or background for that character), you might be surprised by her sudden surge of enthusiasm for learning that character’s moves.
    • Don’t get games that involve things like strippers, prostitutes, and sex. Unless she has a sense of humor about such things, she probably won’t like it.
  4. Have fun when you play with her. If you make it a good time she will enjoy it, even if she’s not that “into games.” Crack jokes, make her laugh, and focus primarily on spending time with her, not on winning the game at hand. Be prepared to help her out. Even if she’s only playing “easy” games, your girlfriend may get stuck and frustrated. As a gamer, you know one of the most frustrating things about video games is getting stuck. Helping her will not only avoid her getting frustrated and fed up with video games, but it will foster a sense of “playing together” and help her see what a great guy you are.
  5. Be understanding and supportive. When she first starts out, tell her that it’s easy, and that she will catch on. Make her feel like this is something that she can do. Let her win. Try not to show any signs of being annoyed that she can’t pass the 1st water zone for the 76th time in a row. As she keeps playing, she will get better and may enjoy the game itself.
  6. Next time you and your girlfriend are in a game shop, casually walk by the video game section and ask her if there is anything that catches her eye. She will probably say no at first without looking at any game, but coax her into it.

Helpful warnings

  • If you try to get your girlfriend into something you’re into that she’s not, she may feel justified in doing the same with you–attempting to show you the glory of motor mechanics, for example. If she’s a good sport, you should be, too.
  • If you get her into gaming, you might never get access to your computer or game console again.
  • If you’re the kind of person who shouts phrases with extremely violent cursing after losing a video game, try not to do so. It may show her that you’re not a very civil person. (Also, be prepared for her to reveal that she is not a very civil person by violently cursing after losing.)
  • When and if she starts to beat you on a consistent basis, do *NOT* stop playing the game with her, remember you wanted this. Nurture it.
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